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Do your kids ignore you when you ask them to behave? Often this happens when parents use unenforceable statements instead of enforceable statements. Although these might seem like a good idea at the time, unenforceable statements usually do not result in the desired outcome and instead create more frustration for the parent.
What are unenforceable statements?
Unenforceable statements inadvertently give control of the outcome to a child and often take the form of a command. Here are some examples of unenforceable statements:
- Don’t shout at me!
- Do your chores or you’ll be grounded!
What are enforceable statements?
Enforceable statements give control of the outcome to the parent. Here are enforceable alternatives to the unenforceable statements above:
- I listen to people who do not yell at me.
- I’ll be happy to take you to soccer practice as soon as your chores are finished.
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